My husband and I decided to take up personal training last spring in typical fashion: we were getting married that summer and we wanted to look svelte and toned in our expensive duds. We also had the sneaking suspicion that we weren’t really accomplishing much in the tiny, outdated gym in our apartment building. Perfectly content to lift a couple of weights, run a mile or two, and then hightail it out of there, we hadn’t experienced a sore muscle in ages. We’d obviously hit a fitness wall and we were not prepared to climb over it without someone shouting at us all the way. One year later, I’m amazed that we’ve stuck with it, twice a week, every week, and that we actually look forward to our sessions (you know, in a slightly masochistic way).
Here are 5 Things I’ve Learned From Personal Training:
1. You’ll never do it, unless you just do it.
It’s so, so easy to make excuses. And it’s so, so hard to do uncomfortable, demanding things. Especially when it comes to our lazy bodies; we’d rather just sit at home and eat Ben and Jerry’s while watching American Idol. I mean, that’s easy. It requires little of us. We will always default to the easy unless we make a repeated, conscious effort to do the hard. This comic from Formal Sweatpants says it all:
2. Even if you think you can’t do it, chances are you probably can.
There have been dozens of times over the past year when I’ve wanted to physically harm my trainer for suggesting that I do things like roll monster truck tires and slam a kettle ball into my own chest (“Is there any reason you can’t have bruises on your body this week?” she asked me). I’ve done squat jumps until I almost vomited and stared at a bench I was supposed to do 120 box jumps on until I almost cried. But I always did it. Somehow, over and over again, I accomplished difficult things that I thought were impossible. Which leads me to number three…
3. Physical strength creates mental strength.
Doing lots of tough things that I didn’t want to do, that someone else told me to do, and doing them when I was tired or in a bad mood or asthmatic from allergies has changed the way I view myself. I am strong, physically and mentally. I now tackle things in my everyday life that I used to think were too difficult and I stick with them. Training has taught me that I can do it, even when all I want to do is run to the nearest donut shop, screaming.
4. Success has more to do with perseverance than strength or talent.
Every single time I go to the gym, it’s hard. It doesn’t get easier just because I get better. Instead, I work harder. Last week, we were given a circuit where we were instructed to do as many reps as we could in one minute sets of seven different exercises. We were then supposed to beat our own score during a second round of the same exercises. Why does it make any logical sense that you can do more squats after your thighs are already burning like the devil? Because you want to, that’s why. The same goes for just about anything in life. If you want it, you go and get it. Most of what we don’t achieve has little to do with a lack of skill or talent or knowledge and everything to do with a lack of motivation and follow-through. I beat my score by several reps on all of those exercises, except for the dreaded plank burpees at the end. By that point, I didn’t want it so badly. I just wanted a drink and a good cry.
5. When your butt looks good, you feel good.
I am convinced that half of the world’s problems would disappear if we all felt better about our butts. Think about that.
Okay, I’m going to be that guy for a second, the one who says the groan-inducing thing that nobody wants to hear. I’m fully aware that I sound like a public service announcement, but here goes: everyone should exercise. The frequency, intensity and method are irrelevant. Free classes at the Y, push-ups at home, it doesn’t matter. I have too many loved ones who don’t take this to heart and keep putting it off for another day. Everything from depression to heart disease to IBS has been proven to show significant improvement with an increase in physical activity.
The statistics are shocking. The only state in the U.S. with an obesity rate below 20% is Colorado (18.5%). In my husband’s home country of South Africa, 56% of women are obese. I am lucky to live in one of the healthiest cities in North America (Vancouver ties with Boulder for the #1 spot, with a 12% obesity rate) and I’m inspired every single time I step outside: people cycle in the rain, my seventy-year-old neighbor runs every day, guys with no legs race around the seawall on converted bikes powered by their arms. As a global community, we are getting fatter and fatter. What does that say about our mental state? I don’t know. But I do know this: there truly are no more excuses. Get up, get to it. Just do it.




I sometimes fear that ‘future me’ will be lazier than ‘present me’. It’s a struggle, and today I totally took the bus instead of walking to work. But like exercise, positive body image and eating healthy are both parts of being a healthy person. So today I got a 2 out of 3… if you don’t count the coffee ;)
I have a coworker who is in her late 70′s. She walks with two canes and over the past year as I watch her come in to work, each day seems a bit more difficult and painful for her. Before long, she won’t be walking at all. She verbalized it, “If I take a week of vacation time, I won’t be able to walk up these steps at all.”
Just do it If we don’t, one day we won’t be able to.
That’s so true. I know some incredibly healthy, active older people, as well as some who seem fifteen or twenty years older than they actually are. We can’t always help the cards we’re dealt when it comes to health, but we can do our best to stay healthy and keep moving. “Just do it If we don’t, one day we won’t be able to.” Amen.
This was a much harder one to, honestly, like! Not because it wasn’t good or true, but because of both! Exercise, in the opinion of most people in the US, should be spelled with 4 letters. I guess it is: work and play. I was in better shape just before my stroke than I was in my late 20s.
However, I was in better shape between my marriages (we’re talking physically, here :-O ). It feels horrible to not be in that physical shape, but I must say that, mentally, I, at least , feel freer. It would be a lie to say I think better – I don’t – my memory skips at times and my imagination took a hit, but the OCD is way down and my thought patterns are more settled. I can even swallow pills! (You don’t know what a struggle I had all my life with that).
So, bravo to you; don’t stop – exercising or writing!
Scott
I was prepared for everyone to hate this post, Scott. No one wants to hear someone tell them that they should do something uncomfortable or strenuous. No one wants to hear that they should do anything at all. Live and let live, right? Well, for me, this is the exception. I wrote it as a reminder to myself as much as for anyone else. We all go through periods where we don’t feel like moving or we don’t see the importance. But then ten years go by. And it’s much harder to lose forty pounds than it is to lose five. Or to combat diabetes rather than prevent it. I remind myself every time I don’t want to exercise that losing momentum is the biggest setback of all. Continuing is so much easier than starting over again. But we can all start again, from wherever we are.
My friend’s brother was in a mountain biking accident a couple of years ago, and he was paralyzed from his abdomen down. He works his butt off every day and is recovering more movement than was ever expected. He plays wheelchair rugby, and does painful physio on a daily basis. I know that he wishes more than anything that he could use his body in all of the ways we take for granted. I keep that in mind when I’m feeling lazy. It helps get me dressed and out of the door.
You also do so many small, inspiring things all of the time, Scott. It’s amazing what we take for granted. And then we lose it and we appreciate every little victory. Thanks for the reminder about the preciousness of life and health. You’re amazing.
I will accept that compliment, but know that, it is partially due to all my new friends here, that I continue to be the way I am. You are all in my system and making a difference. Thank you.
And, yes, the difference between preventing diabetes and combating it is mountains.
Scott
I needed this as I have been FORCING myself to go down to the gym before my family gets up. I did today and I feel great!
Good for you!
You’re right. We should all work out. I’ll be starting tonight. Why not? I kept saying, “I don’t have the time.” But the truth is, that’s an easy excuse. Time to find the time!
Oh yeah! You tell ‘em! I totally agree, I live in one of those healthy/fit/active microcosms (Bozeman, MT) and I’m always astonished when I travel and see just how overweight everyone is around the country.
Reblogged this on Lauren Out Loud and commented:
“When your butt looks good, you feel good.
I am convinced that half of the world’s problems would disappear if we all felt better about our butts. Think about that.”
Truer words have never been spoken. My butt is my favorite body part (we all need one), and it gives me confidence. I’ve become addicted to squats and lunges. And I constantly have panty-clad dance parties in the mirror. Not even sorry.
“I constantly have panty-clad dance parties in the mirror. Not even sorry.” Love it! You go, girl!
Loving your post! I have a love, crave with the gym lately. I want to go to feel better and healthier. Happy Monday!
I may well print this post out and stick it on my wall for the evenings when the gym seems like the least appealling place in the world. Amen, sister!
I live in Portland Oregon, I’m not sure where we are in the obesity statistics, but this town, like Vancouver, spurs me to exercise (one so that I can partake in the fine dining and local wines we have here, lol.) This town lives to be active whether kite surfing near Hood River, hiking/skiing Mount Hood, biking all over the city, running along the river or many of the parks with running trails leaving one feeling like you’re actually in the forest… I have an elliptical so that I can run while my daughter sleeps, but you’re absolutely right, it’s so easy to just NOT do it ;) I recently took a kickboxing class and boy did it kick my butt, however, my butt has thanked me and I’m signed up for twice weekly classes. I felt tired, nauseous at the end but then felt renewed after relaxing at home a bit knowing that bag is soooo mine next week. xoxo Kristy
I agree. I just started to work out more recently, and it’s strange because now I like doing it. I never liked to work out. I do wonder what brought on the change, but I do put the cause on my arms like you mentioned about the butt. I just started to do weights for my arms and my underarms every time I watch tv. It’s been six months at this, and my arms have definitely been toned that I do get compliments and I have to tell people how I do it, especially how easy it is! I mean, come on, watch shows and do stuff to your arms? No big, right? It’s perfect! I guess it’s my motivation and now I’m extending more work out to the rest of my body. I am stubborn to be toned how. Doing squats for two months so far. I’m slowly adding more things to it when I feel more of an ease in one area. And I am entirely pleased, am loving the burn I feel, and look forward to more exercise. Walk a block from the parking lot to the farmer’s market (which was two days ago, actually)? Count me in. But honestly, the little things do count — take the stairs instead of the elevator, park far away rather than wait for a close parking space, etc., etc., etc. And it helps that my boyfriend is especially active and fit. And I am in love with my lifestyle at the moment. :]
So true. I love “Most of what we don’t achieve has little to do with a lack of skill or talent or knowledge and everything to do with a lack of motivation and follow-through”. Have seen that so many times in my life and others lives.
Currently struggling to get back into my working out groove after two weeks of stressful, jam packed, zombie-like days. Was even considering sleeping for the next hour instead of getting back in a work out. You inspired/reminded me that I need to put on my big girl panties and just do it.
I think it’s also improtant to note that simply finishing a workout is an accomplishment in and of itself and makes you feel good, whether your butt shows the hard work or not. I am one of those goal-oriented people who thrive off of mental gold stars and I like to keep track of when I work out. It motivates me to keep pushing myself to work harder and exceed the calorie count of the previous workout. Plus, I feel good knowing that rather than go home after work and veg out on the couch for hours, I dragged my tired butt to the gym and burned some calories, reduced some stress, and cleared my head. I may hate every sweaty minute of it–and most of the time I do–but it feels great to have my blood pumping and know I did something good for myself. It’s a difficult road to travel, but by golly, it’s worth it.
I completely agree with you, Jessica. The physical result is really just the frosting on the cake. I workout for my brain, my mood, and my confidence more than anything else. Good for you for choosing the gym over the couch. Sounds like you’re getting it done!
Rian, I must say that you have just gotten me in the mood to go work out. Adam and I are going tonight!!!
Awesome! I hope you guys had a good workout.
I couldn’t agree more, exercise has so many mental and physical benefits. People that exercise are just happier all around and can handle stress better! So you’re married to a SAFFA!, I live in Cape Town and I’m sure that stat you quoted is correct but just so you know Capetonians are very healthy sporty people, we have the mountain and sea on our doorstep and people are always out running, hiking, cycling, surfing, SUPPING, etc. I think the obese people are all inland!
Hello Heidi, Lucky you to live in such a beautiful place! You’re right–Cape Town is very similar to Vancouver in its active, outdoorsy vibe and lifestyle. My husband and I were just there in December–we rang in the new year with some friends in Camps Bay. I can’t wait to go back!
I definitely feel happier and mentally stronger when I exercise more. I usually have more energy, too. I’m good at making sure I go out running twice a week with my club, even when the weather is rubbish and I’m tired. It’s about setting up the “no excuses” clause from the beginning and sticking to it. Good on you for keeping it up!
A running club, how fun! Yep, if you make exceptions early on, it will be that much easier to make them down the line, until you just don’t exercise at all. Good for you for running in bad weather. You’d do well in rainy Vancouver :)